January 2, 2011
thinking – to do 2011
Happy new year! And thank you for coming along for the ride.
I have to say what a privilege it is to have so many friends and fellow travellers spend a bit of their time on Final Fashion. The magic of the Google and the serendipity of fashion blogland brings you, but I have no idea what it is that makes some of you stay for longer than a second – whatever it is, I am grateful to you. Wishing you all the best for this year and this decade, you magnificent people.
If you’ve been checking in for more than a year (what, why, how?) you know that I love making resolutions for the New Year. I try to keep them fun, manageable and measurable, and I’ve had a pretty decent track record of keeping them. Without further ado, this year’s to dos:
You know, forget about being alone and lonely. One of the greatest things about Toronto for me was the six or seven year process of finding a group of friends I could truly call my own. Here, I don’t have that much time, so I have to accelerate the process. Here’s my plan:
- Leave no social stone unturned – no matter how tangential, pull on every social tie. This can definitely lead to some very strange emails. (Hi, you are my former roommate’s mother’s co-worker’s son’s friend, wanna hang out? For real.) Whatever, it’s not like I have anything to lose, and at this point I’ve got so much time on my hands I can get away with it. I’ve already started trying this and people are surprisingly receptive – it leads to socializing with people who you may never have the opportunity to meet any other way. Hey, are you in London or know someone who is? Email me – firstname.lastname@example.org.
- Completely revise my twitter feed and Google reader. I’m looking for the most fun, smart, entertaining online people who are located in London and in Europe generally. Experience has taught me that awesome blogs & twitter feeds always equal awesome people behind them, and people who are often open-hearted when you make the effort to make a real life connection. Never mind the superstars, I’m all for the niche players, you know, my league. Got any recommendations, who are your favourite, under-rated London & Euro bloggers and tweeters? Leave a comment please!
- Always err on the side of too outgoing. People in London can be very reserved. If I wait for them to say something to me, I could be waiting forever, and I don’t have the time. I plan to be the first to introduce myself, always volunteer whenever it seems like I can be of service, always speak up to whoever’s around if I think of something the least bit clever. Be brasher, braver, and more pugnacious than everyone else around, even if some of the locals find it disconcerting.
Part of this process will be dealing with some rejection which is a good social skill in and of itself. I think one major advantage I have is that this campaign to find friends is completely without any ulterior motive. I don’t need to get a job or attain any sort of social status or anything, my intentions are only to seek and find those marvellous people that I find affinity with. I find people are so much more open when you don’t demand anything from them besides their presence.
This new continent is full of so much I’ve never seen – I’ve got to see as much as possible while I’m here. I’m starting with Berlin Fashion Week (with Barb!) and I’ve a list of half a dozen more cities I want to see, if not in 2011 then in 2012.
- Paris, obviously. Its the fashion capital.
- Berlin. Ticking this one off right now.
- Istanbul. Exotic.
- Amsterdam. Party.
- Glasgow. With Gail, please!
- ?? any suggestions for number six?
As for working with European clients, that is obviously up to the people here – just putting it out into the ether.
Arriving in London reminded me a bit of my first year of fashion school – it is a sartorial shock to the system. People here know how to dress, and I viscerally feel the peer pressure to step up my game. Having arrived with only two bags, I don’t have much to work with. So this also means that I have to conquer my total inability to shop.
This is typical for me: I go to a store, it has a sale on. I only find one thing that I like, and it is full price. I choke, buy it, take it home. Find something wrong with it. Go through agonizing cognitive dissonance. Return it (walk of shame) for store credit, and then dread the process of using that credit.
I know enough shopping mavens to be able to observe them and appreciate that shopping is not a frivolous thing, it truly is a bonafide skill. I will never be a shopping maven. But I do believe I can achieve a novice level of ability, enough to be able to enjoy it instead of avoiding it.
Have any shopping tips for the shopping-avoidant? I need them! Please leave a comment.
I’ve broken my glasses frames (8 years old now) a few times this past year, enough to know that they are on their final legs (arms?). It’s quite something to try and replace something which is so integral to your image – it really is the most stressful shopping trip I can think of. This is something I need to work up to.
This is something I am very excited for – I have a few ideas I can’t wait to try. It combines my childhood destiny, which seems to be drawing paper dolls, with another of my earliest passions, researching the history of fashion. To lay some specifics down: this will be a monthly release of an intricately rendered PDF paper doll, created as faithfully to fact as possible, and inspired by a selection of what I believe to be the last century’s most under-rated, yet significant, designers.